Friday, August 13, 2010
While watching a certain video last night (http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=455621345922), something struck me cold.
I am no longer 'young', I am no longer on the side of the divide where I can get away from everything with a smile or sorry. I can no longer say that I am young and innocent. I can no longer blame anybody for anything that happens. I can no longer throw my burdens onto my parents when I can no longer handle them.
As the whistle is about to blow on the most awesome 4 months of forever, I guess I need to really take a moment to think. just. think.
I guess one's friends only ever increase as time passes. Or does it? As we continue our individual paths to 'success in life' (whatever that may mean), it's inevitable we meet more like-minded people and friends in the process. But do we actually bother to catch up with our friends from years before? Or are we complacent enough to think the ties of friendship will never weaken? How many times have we met up with old classmates and after that night, realise how much you don't know about them anymore and try as we might, know that that period of yesteryear was as close as we could ever have gotten to telepathic?
Time not only heals, time destroys.
Another fundamental problem of society is the prevalent mentality of fitting in. Especially in schools. As circumstances craft us all into social butterflies (it does), we get so caught up in it all that sometimes, I think we all forget to be ourselves.
To be cool, we try to blend in. We try to change ourselves. I am guilty of that myself. And it usually isn't till we really reflect that we realise that we aren't actually happy. Stereotypes really are rampant in this world we live in. We try every means possible to avoid being a 'gamer', 'nerd', 'geek', 'zhai nan'. So we smoke, we drink, we club, we try to be modern ghost-busters by busting boomers and smokers. We try to fit in.
People are really vulnerable. Nobody feels secure.
We need a cauldron of varying personalities. The world cannot do with just cool people. We need geeks, we need bastards, we need bitches. We need change, we need provocation, we need to be different. We need to have an unique identity. And that's why we should just be our damn selves.
Standing out isn't wrong. Conformity is.
Have you ever realised that when friends say you have changed, it is because you have stopped living your life THEIR way?
To change or to conform?
randomMADNESS
3:10 am;________________________________
